The thought of our parents having sex clearly (according to the blog feedback) seems disturbing to many, but it’s happening — and that’s a good thing — so we need to make sure that our parents and grandparents understand some of the ramifications of the “new” dating scene to ensure they practice safe sex and are careful about their choices.Let’s have an open discussion about it — with lots of respect from all sides.This blog is part of my special series called: Baby Boomer Dating Tips. And when you’re in your 40s, 50s or 60s it may seem next to impossible. Or emerging from a period of time where you were consumed with raising children.Or caring for elderly parents or perhaps you still are responsible for children and/parents. You might feel like you don’t have the slightest idea how to go about flirting. If your parent is recently widowed or divorced, or has decided after some time of singledom that it’s time to look for love, here are 7 pieces of advice you may want to offer for dating in the 21st century. Today, a pay phone is a rare find and a couple of quarters just won’t cut it if Mom needs to call for help or a ride home. Now it’s time for you to broach the subject of modesty with her. If your parent has lived alone for a while, it can be tempting to talk when she finds a listening ear.
“Lay off and let adults be adults, trust me, even at age 80, they can handle their business without the interference of a nosy daughter or son,” wrote another Huff Post reader who commented on my blog. The advice you’ve given me is: Be really careful when writing about older people and sex — it’s a touchy subject, to say the least ()!If your parent is at the point of seeking a physically intimate relationship, a discussion with the doctor might be in order. According to England’s Family Planning Agency (FPA), the number of reported cases of STDs among 50-to 90-year-olds has more than doubled in the past decade, perhaps due in part to the availability of drugs mentioned previously. If your parent is recently divorced or widowed remind them (as they may have frequently reminded you) that it’s not wise to jump into a relationship too quickly. If your parent is looking to meet potential love interests online, remind them things aren’t always as they seem on the Internet and to beware.Remind dad (or mom) to always carry along a condom. While most counselors recommend waiting at least a year to remarry after a divorce or death of a spouse, your parent, understandably, may feel that life is too short to wait around once they have found, “the one.” No, you can’t tell your parent what to do in matters of love, but it may be helpful to remind them that while loneliness is not good, spending the rest of their life with the wrong person is worse. More serious than a date who lies about his age or other details is one who is a threat to your parent’s safety.In the case of The Sex Talk, clearly, “approach and tone” are everything.It’s one thing to say, “Mom, I heard you’re dating again.